Note: This article is taken from the writer Marc Chernoff, who tells us about the reason for your unjustified busyness.
Just jeans and a T-shirt, and despite his pretty face, this particular morning he was covered in a dark baseball cap and tousled brown hair, and after strumming for a few minutes to tune his instrument he reached into his pocket and pulled out some bills which he tossed into the violin case in front of him on which he hopes the passers-by will give him money.
It was a very busy morning in the subway station when the young man started to play, thousands of people were rushing to work or school or wherever they were going, and trains were coming and going, and yet despite the noise and the crowd, the amazing sound of this young man's violin filled the subway station, and it was impossible to ignore him.
Over the course of 43 minutes, more than 1,000 people walked through the subway entrance doors where American violinist Joshua Bell was playing; If any other performer in the street was playing, it should not be surprising that he attracted the attention of a few people; But Joshua Bell wasn't just a street performer; He was the most famous violinist in the world, and he was playing one of the most difficult classical works of art ever. That masterpiece was played on a $3,000,000 violin that produced one of the purest and most eloquent sounds in the world, and yet almost no one noticed.
Why? Because he was not like any special person, and everyone was too busy to stop and listen to the music.
Busyness is like a disease
Think about it: "I'm busy," how often is that your excuse? I used to have this as my excuse every day like those people didn't have time to listen to Joshua Bell's music, my schedule didn't leave me any extra time for unplanned things, and I was proud of my busyness, I wanted everyone to know what it's like to drive from somewhere to another in my comfort car was such a struggle, not to mention how to juggle work and family, help trainees and readers with my course, and then immediately rush off to shop, get events ready, and then have only an hour to feed and take care of our son before bed every night.
This is exactly what I was announcing; How busy I am, but not anymore; So now I actually pause to hear the music and I am proud of it. Busyness is no badge of honor, there is no honor whatsoever in endless busyness; Busyness is just an illness that makes everything more difficult than it needs to be.
Busy just to be busy
If we are not below the poverty line, our preoccupation is of our own making 98% of the time. The exception is 2% of the time caused by the surprises of life, and I was finally able to figure out why I was busy after a long study through which I discovered that it was always under my control, in fact most of the time the rush and worry was of my own making, when I really had no work, in a typical weekday I would urge family members, co-workers, and everyone close to me to move faster.
- "If you don't finish eating, we will be late."
- "If we do not accomplish this task in the next hour, we will never achieve our goal."
The strange thing is that, whether I rush the others or not, in the end everyone is ready at the same time; The only difference is that when I rush them everyone feels miserable, myself included.
It became clear to me that almost all of my busyness was an overreaction in my head, which I had been creating in hopes that it would shorten the time and somehow make my life easier. Instead, it did the exact opposite; My busyness only led to anxiety, bitterness and complication, and even on the days when the busyness was real, it was usually because my schedule was crammed with tasks that I set myself, all of this made me think:
“Why would I make my life more difficult, busy, and unhappy of my own free will?”
Reason and Justification for Unnecessary Busyness
Unfortunately, a large part of the reason why our lives are filled with unnecessary preoccupations has to do with our incessant use of digital devices, our constant internet connection, tracking the news, and comparing ourselves to others. We feel inferior, and the only way we can do better is to be busier at work whatever it is; After all, it's our job title and the things we do that determine our worth, aren't these usually the first things we share with strangers we meet at parties?
We post on social media how busy we are and fill our calendars with artificial busyness in order to avoid our reality that we think does not fit us, and in the process we not only miss out on the calm and beauty within ourselves; But we also miss out on the serenity and beauty of the world around us; Because of the rush, the restlessness, and the endless need to be somewhere else and do something else as quickly as possible.
in conclusion
Are you ready for a positive change in your life? Let's get up every morning from here on out and get rid of our undue busyness, let's start making every moment less busy and more rewarding, let's start keeping our lives organized and our schedules uncluttered, let's start making room for reflection and enjoying the quiet around us, so that we can pause a little bit to hear the music for a moment and smile when the chance allows.
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