Why Feeling Uncomfortable Is a Sign of Improvement?

You can empower yourself and increase your chances by allowing negative emotions to expose things you've been denying. Choose "curiosity" as your motto rather than "fear" because while it's one thing to not react to negative emotions, it's quite another to ignore them.

Acceptance of Negative Emotions

While it's normal for negative emotions to impact our happiness at the moment, they also serve as a warning sign that something is wrong. Thinking itself is often the thing that needs to be corrected. You will not succeed in examining your thinking because it is not an easy task. Ideas are frequently illogical because they are irrationally linked to our experiences, perceptions, beliefs, and biases.

According to Michael Neill, "Thinking gives rise to emotions." So, rather than wishing for these emotions to pass, use them. You can override your mind's automatic reactions and think "beyond the box" in your limiting beliefs and conditional perceptions. Asking yourself why you are uncomfortable and coming up with a rational explanation will help you see things differently and possibly even come to terms with uncertainty.

Living with not Knowing

Doubt stems from ignorance, which in turn leads to emotional discomfort. Humans have always sought knowledge from antiquity to the Renaissance, the Industrial Revolution, the expansion of secularisation, and the technological revolution. Science and knowledge have replaced spirituality and wisdom, and welfare has become knowledge. Since we are highly intelligent creatures, anything that keeps us safe will always seem a good choice. Thus, why do you occasionally experience unwarranted anxiety despite having all the information at your fingertips, just a single click away?

The lives of our ancestors provide the solution. You are still a primitive human being despite the significant advancements in human form over the past few centuries. While many of the physical skills of your ancestors have become obsolete due to technological advancements, your innermost feelings are always present and can surface at any time.

From an early age, we were taught that ignorance is terrible. The term ignorance originally meant "lack of knowledge or information," but it has come to mean specifically disdain. Uncertainty prevents us from seeing things from fresh angles, restricts our own and other people's potential, and stifles our creativity.

When you compare a young child's experience to that of an adult who has decided everything and verified its factuality, it will undoubtedly seem uninteresting because, for a young child, every day and moment is an adventure and a chance for new experiences and discoveries.

Why is sentencing acceptable?

Although making snap judgments about people based on their appearance, accent, demeanour, words, vehicle, or even place of residence may make you uncomfortable, this is a healthy thing because it's a logical way you can't live without. People make snap judgments all the time.

However, you may sometimes make judgments and then question them, such as asking yourself:

• Why do I feel uncomfortable with these?
• Who do they remind me of?
• What distinguishes them?
• What do I suppose?

The risk comes from criticising yourself for criticising others, but there's no need for that; you have already disrupted the primitive involuntary reaction thanks to your awareness, so you can use that information to make an informed decision. In this way, discomfort serves as a signal for development and a chance to grow.

Some people find it awkward to be around people who struggle academically or physically, but why is this the case? Is it fear of the unknown? Or fear of being disabled? Or maybe just your inability to predict the actions of someone “different”?

Consider yourself in a supermarket, watching as a mother chastises one of her three children in front of you. She smacks them after losing her cool and yelling at them earlier. She also uses derogatory language. What emotions will the child experience? And how does the mother feel? What did she feel that led her to act this way? More importantly, how do you feel, and why?

How does distinguishing promote “responsiveness,” not reaction?

Being able to react rather than just reacting is an indication of consciousness. A civilised person becomes ignorant when they accept and deal with primitive responses. The trick is to have awareness to distinguish between emotions that are beneficial to you and those that are not.

People tend to have more faith in those who live close by than those who reside elsewhere, for instance. That is true not only of neighbours who know them through communication or other means but also of individuals who share their appearance and behaviour.

This quick response, even before the law's enactment, stems from the reality that strangers misbehave more frequently than natives, something we now take for granted, and that, in the absence of distinguishing, a predisposition toward mistrust can quickly turn into xenophobia or outright discrimination.

Instead of only responding to events, you can choose how to react rationally by analysing your feelings.

Causes of discomfort

Being uncomfortable is frequently a sign of impending significant success because most people prefer to be in control. Due to disliking the feeling of fear, we hide it behind control, or rather, an illusion.

There are many possible triggers for discomfort, such as:

• Lack of honesty.
• Conflict of values
• Lack of intrinsic value.
• Lack of achievement.
• Lack of purpose.
• Lack of control over life.
• Play the role of the victim.
• Feeling guilty.

Whether consciously or unconsciously, there will always be a mismatch between our values and actions, and discomfort is one way that it manifests.

Self-improvement, where am I and where do I want to be?

Many people start their journey of self-improvement by expressing their goals for better things, such as better relationships, jobs, and social lives. However, eventually, they realise they want to "be" better.

When you look in the mirror, literally or figuratively, what do you see?

Your true nature is not necessarily the one you have created, which may include many negative aspects. Your true nature is your inner being, your sublime mind, the nature that entered this world innocently and remains innocent. If you want to become better than you are, you must be who you are, that is, your authentic nature.

In conclusion

The next time you experience discomfort, attempt to accept rather than dismiss this unfavourable emotion. Examine and be curious about this feeling. By doing so, you will weaken it, thereby strengthening yourself.

Then, identify the thought that created this feeling. You can choose the thoughts you want to interact with and which must be eliminated, and by acknowledging discomfort as a sign of improving yourself, you take the opportunity to be better off.