So, pay attention to these thoughts, and know that they are not true, and do not represent you. They are just negative thoughts that you can stop or change.
2 Ways to Eliminate Negative Thoughts and Have a Positive Mindset
1. Questioning Your Stories
Never believe anything until you've independently checked its validity, including rumors, gossip, expectations from coworkers, and shocking news on television. The same concept holds true for your thoughts.
We all have stories about ourselves and others, even if we don't think of them as stories. The evidence is that we rarely think deeply about our relationships, habits, and challenges we face, and we often act based on our feelings without thinking.
The stories might be short, for example: "I'm not a good writer" or "I'm not good at yoga." If you delve into them, you will find many reasons to believe that they are true even though they are not, they are just stories.
Therefore, you have to train yourself to question these stories. For example, if you think you're not good at writing, ask yourself why, and how you have to be to consider yourself a good writer. Try to describe your writing in a way that is most useful to you, and you will be surprised by how much these questions will help you reach a clearer and more correct story.
2. Refining Your Thoughts
Sometimes, you might be in a hurry and you might be having a bad day. For such times, we recommend a quick mental exercise that will help you stay positive. Review the words in your mind before you spell them. Ask yourself if they are:
For example, you might be thinking that your partner doesn't care about you and you're about to tell them because they didn't do something you asked them to do. Before you say it, ask yourself: " Is it true that my partner doesn't care about me? Is it kind to tell them that they don't care about me? Is it useful for me to say that?"
Remember that once you say something, you cannot take it back. However, you will never regret acting in a kind and useful way. So, practice this exercise in the next few days and weeks.
In Conclusion
Use the 2 previous methods to change your thoughts gradually. Learn to notice these thoughts when they occur to you, and replace them with truer, kinder, and more useful thoughts. Continue to practice this and forgive yourself for making mistakes.
Remember that you will encounter many negative external factors that might distract you from the new story you are trying to craft, such as comments from your family, the news, social media posts, and other things that people might say and do.
When you notice negativity approaching you, learn to face it with thoughts like: “This comment doesn't represent me as much as it represents the one who made it.” Learn that all people deal with emotional problems just like you, which sometimes makes them hateful. They try their best, or maybe they just don't even realize their problems.
Either way, you can learn to view their actions as impersonal confrontations - rather than personal attacks - to which you can choose to respond diplomatically or not at all.
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