Everyone dreams, and surely, most of these dreams fade as we move into adulthood, which requires facing the so-called reality of earning a living, starting a family, and thinking about our future. However, there is a small part of you that clings to these dreams, hoping that they might somehow come true.
To turn this hope into reality, you must commit to your dreams and take the necessary steps to achieve them. Many of us imagine doing this, but only a few will actually do it. So, today we're going to discuss the reasons for that while focusing on one important reason, which is the main factor preventing you from embarking on the adventure of a lifetime.
Lack of Belief that Dreams Are Possible
This is surely a sticking point for you, in addition to the lack of clarity about what your dream actually is. So think about it. What is the main message you hear when it comes to your chances of doing something extraordinary in your life? Set out to achieve your goal and dedicate yourself to it. Your chances of success are very good. But be careful, because only few people have been able to succeed.
Depending on your age at the time, this message might come from parents, teachers, career counselors, co-workers, or even friends and partners. When it is repeated and reinforced by the media as well, your dream of doing something important with your life will eventually seem ridiculous.
This is what actually happens. Negative messages are repeated over and over again until we accept them eventually; thus, they turn into a restrictive belief that prevents us from working. We are rational people, and we will choose to work with caution to avoid failure. We accept a modest life instead of taking on challenges that might lead to disasters with low chances of success. However, this concept is incorrect because your probability of success is greater than you think.
Categorizing People
People can be divided into four distinct categories when it comes to living their dreams. These categories, regardless of the number of people competing, apply to their specific dreams (for example, someone's dream is to become a professional footballer, another person's dream is to become a famous painter, and another person's dream is to publish a cookbook).
There are a lot of competitive people around you. Obviously, there is much more competition in football than in painting. However, no matter how many competitors you have, you can knock out 90% of them, and these are:
1. Procrastinators
They are those who talk a lot but do very little. They won't communicate with others, they won't sign up for a training course, and they won't search for anything. All they will do is talk.
2. Trying people
They are on a higher level than procrastinators, but they are not direct competitors. Someone who tries will work to achieve their goals for a year or so. When they find difficulty in the task at hand, they will withdraw because they believe that their chances of success are low.
3. Secondary persons
This group also succeeds in their goals, but to a lesser extent. Therefore, a professional football player may sign a contract; however, he signs it with a lower-level team. A person who aspires to be a well-known painter will be able to sell some paintings, but not enough to make a living. However, these people will withdraw from pursuing their dreams after a few years. A footballer might withdraw out of concern for injury. As for someone who wants to publish their own cookbook, it might be due to numerous rejections of their book from publishers.
4. Achieving Dreamers
Achieving dreamers ignore the fact that they do not have to be the best when it comes to succeeding in living their dreams; this can actually increase your chances of success. We have Messi and Ronaldo in football as examples; chefs Jamie Oliver and Gordon Ramsey both work in the culinary industry; and the two major soft drink brands, Coca-Cola and Pepsi. Don't let your fear of not being the best keep you from realizing your dreams. It's not necessary to be the best.
Example of the Work Theory
My experience as a tennis coach has contributed to my confidence in the work theory. For more than ten years, I have observed kids grow, change, and abandon their ambitions to play professionally. Tennis is a challenging sport, and there are probably only 600 players worldwide who can make a living solely from playing the sport, and only 200 of them make enough money to support themselves after retirement.
Therefore, no parent seriously considers the idea of their child becoming a professional. They will be content to pay for their training and be pleased with their progress, but they soon realize that their chances of success are extremely slim. However, this belief leads to an odd occurrence.
While there are thousands of talented kids competing, very few of them believe they will reach a professional level. Almost all kids will stop competing at some point between the ages of 10 and 18. If the aspiring champion continues on this path, they will have a real chance of making it.
The same holds true for writing. There are many people who believe they can write a book, but very few of them actually start writing, and even fewer finish their books, leaving the field open for you and boosting your chances of success.
In Conclusion
Never underestimate the power of taking just a few actions towards achieving your dream. This certainly does not guarantee success, but overcoming limiting beliefs gives you the opportunity to learn more, grow, develop, and increase your confidence by building success. Now you have a much clearer vision of how to achieve your dream, and what previously seemed impossible now appears to be possible.
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