The Importance of Remembering the Significant Moments in Achieving Success
Note: This article is based on the work of the author Evan Traver, in which he tells us about his experience of continuing on the path to success, no matter how difficult it may be.
The easy way is convenient
Life is hard, and nothing goes exactly as you want. The schedules you set to accomplish a goal or task take too much or too little time, money comes and goes, and so do social relationships, and it can get boring at some point; you might find something that hurts, or enhances your pride, but life can also be easy, it is easy to walk the comfortable path instead of the difficult path to success, but what is the comfortable path? It can be any of the following:
When a task's schedule takes longer than expected, do you give up on the goal? Or when your money decreases, do you think it is better to regret it than to work to increase it? Or if a relationship ends, it is easier to blame the other party than to look at the core of that relationship, to be honest with the person who was in the wrong, and to use the experience for the growth and prosperity of the relationship, and if your dignity is hurt, it is much easier to show arrogance than to deal with the person who hurt it.
The path that leads to success is difficult, but rich in rewards at the end
Life is difficult. It is difficult to remain contemplative, confident, positive and impulsive. Life as we understand it is so full of twists and turns that it is almost impossible for us to stay calm and collected. It is much easier for you to allow the course of life to control you than for you to control it.
However, the course of life does not control us. As human beings, we respond physically and mentally to our surroundings, thus directly affecting our lives and the lives of those around us.
Even our inaction is an act that leads to a kind of interaction in life, and with this way of thinking, by taking a negative approach to life, you equalize without feeling the narrow path of success with the comfortable path, and if you act recklessly; The result is a bad life.
Apart from action and inaction; The path to success is narrow, difficulty is an essential part of it, it is a path that is easy to deviate from the midst of the course of life, so when things become difficult, and you move away from the narrow path of success, you get lost far from your way.
In order to be successful, we need to have the ability to return to the narrow path, and no matter how many surprises we face in life, difficult things and events do not last forever, but rather the difficulties you face are able to keep you on your path.
But how is that done? People are proud of themselves, whether they admit it or not, and it is human nature to adopt a victim mentality when faced with an obstacle on the narrow path of success; We do not admit that we are to blame, we blame life itself, yet adopting a victim mentality is a procedure you have chosen for yourself, and it directly affects your narrow path and the obstacles that life throws in front of you.
Remember the important points in life to continue on your path
The narrow path is not flat as much as it is winding and unpredictable, that is, it is full of victories and setbacks, and no matter what obstacle you face, there will always be an important point in your life directly related to this obstacle; So do you remember how you felt in those important moments?
By identifying and remembering the important points or moments in your life, you can use them when you need them, when the comfortable path seems more enticing than the narrow path of success, and that can be the key to a successful life; It is the ability to stay your way, regardless of the surroundings, and to remain resilient by combining focusing attention on the moments of the present while looking forward to seeing your future, and looking back in times of exhilaration.
Important moments are essential for two reasons
- It gives you an emotional boost that can be remembered when you lack emotional drive, and the emotions that settled in you through remembering these moments offer you the opportunity to overcome the chaos and stay on the narrow path of success.
- In these moments of life, you can see your future very clearly, when you are in front of an important point, you see the narrow path of your life from a logical point of view, and you clearly understand both the direction you are heading to, and why you want to reach it? So when things get tough, you can remind yourself why you do what you do.
It is important to remember the most significant moments in your life, use them to prevent yourself from hitting rock bottom, and motivate yourself to let go of apathy, despair, or negativity. By remembering small motivational things, you will get there, regaining clarity, positivity, and emotionality.
It may feel bad in the moment, but by focusing on those "major moments" that keep you going you will enhance the value of your time and be able to stay on the narrow road to success.
Building a company is hard, it is emotionally taxing as much as it is financially, and the people you partner with, despite being amazing, have their own unique personality traits and philosophies on life, and when it comes to starting a business, hurting the dignity between partners is one of the most harmful things that could occur.
I have had the opportunity of partnering with some very special people of great enthusiasm and intelligence; As I have found it, it is both a blessing and a curse. While the benefits of partnering with high-achieving people are very clear, the downside is sometimes not so obvious at first. When you are a person with many achievements, especially if you have a competitive personality, it is easy to disagree with even the most agreeable business partners.
One of my partners in particular was a friend of mine by chance, and we are both confident people with strong convictions in our philosophies, and in this way it is very likely that we will disagree on even the smallest of issues.
We once had a 30-minute discussion about how sending an email to a potential partner could change our entire business, I thought an email should be casual and friendly, he thought it should be short and business-like, and we both thought reaching an agreement is impossible, until each side sees the benefit of the other's idea.
Although it seems trivial, I personally know business relationships that have been wrecked and burned by small and magnified incidents like this; moreover, we were both exhausted and tired of the energy needed to move our business forward; having a disagreement cannot be a good starting point; So instead of getting trapped in that moment, taking the easy way out and being upset about my wounded dignity and going home, I remembered a positive event or two in reality.
I thought about the time we did our first deal, really legitimizing our business model, it was such a great feeling, and I also remembered what was before the actual meeting with the partner when this email debacle happened, how relieved we felt apart from that meeting.
With this reassessment, everything came back into my focus, and instead of falling into the rift that had exacerbated previous disagreements, I was able to remember why we were here, what we were trying to achieve together, and the benefits we both gained from partnering with one another.
In conclusion
We put an end to the argument, and literally in a matter of minutes, I came to terms with his reasoning, knowing that our partnership was more important than an e-mail, and surprisingly, because I was more receptive, he was more receptive too, who would have thought that would happen?
We took elements from both of our ideas and designed an email that single-handedly encouraged our potential partner to close a deal with us, and none of this would have been possible had I not remembered that key moment.
It may seem small, but even email can wound dignity irreparably, and by remembering that important moment, the business partnership was strengthened in a way that directly led to more success for our company.